I was sitting here drinking my coffee and reading the Celebrity Baby Blog, as I do most mornings, and came across a post that made me say, "Huh?" I thought I'd share it here and see what you all think.
Hilary Swank on Motherhood: ‘When the Time Is Right, I’ll Know’
“For me, my career is like, for lack of a better word, a baby,” she tells Marie Claire. “I always knew that I wanted to act, since I was 7-years-old.” For just as long, however, Hilary concedes she has been “thinking about the day” she would become a mom. She adds,
“When the time is right, I’ll know. I am aware that next week, I turn 35. But I am also aware that the timing has to be right.”
She’s already learning what it’s like to live with a child, by way of boyfriend John Campisi’s 6-year-old son Sam, and beginning to consider her choices more carefully as a result. A self-confessed fan of sleeping in the n*de — “I just toss and turn too much…if I’m in clothes, I get all twisted up,” she explains — Hilary predicts that the practice will be coming to an end soon.
“You wonder at what age you should stop walking around n*de,” she muses. “Every morning he comes into the bedroom, and you’re just n*de.” Hilary is quick to point out, however,
“He doesn’t look twice; he doesn’t think about it yet.”
Source: Marie Claire, November issue
If I was this kid's mom, I would be really upset. Six-year-old's are well-aware of parental relationships and n*dity. I don't understand why an intelligent woman, like Hilary Swank has always seemed to be, wouldn't see that this could affect the child, and stopped this practice as soon as she moved in. And the father of the boy should know better as well. But, as I sit here and get upset about her laying there in a bed n@ked, in front of a little boy who is not her child, I also realize that it's just a human body. So, what do you all think? Wrong? No big deal?
**EDITED TO CLARIFY: I'm not talking about n*dity in general, or being n*de in front of your own children. That is fine with me and certainly a personal preference. I'm referring to a woman being n@ked in a bed next to her boyfriend, and her boyfriend's 6-year-old son coming in and seeing her n@ked every morning, as her quote describes.**
16 comments:
I personally feel that as long as she is in bed and not completely exposed there is nothing wrong with it. People all over the world walk around naked all the time.
I would never walk around naked in front of my step daughter but that is just me. However, when she was 3 and I had only known her a few months I had to shower with her even though I was not her mother. Sometimes things have to happen no matter if we agree with them or not.
If they are willing to teach the child it is just a human form then I have no problem with it.
My husband voices his opinion on this very subject quite often. He says that I shouldn't be bare in front of the kids. Well I'm sorry I don't remember the last time I was able to take a bath without one or both of my kids barging right in. They really don't think anything of it. I remember seeing my mom bare as a child and I'm not traumatized by it. She didn't make it a point to parade around, and I don't either. I feel I have a right to be bare in my room or my bathroom, the kids just tend to follow. Granted mine are 5 (girl) 3 (boy). I try to make myself unavailable while bare as they are getting older. Just my thoughts.
Doug and I both sleep nude...we have since the kids were babies. They're both used to it and don't think twice, even when they're sleeping in bed with us. To them, it's the norm.
Then again, our situation is slightly different. I mean, we're married and the kid's biological parents.
Hilary is not married to this boy's father and she isn't his biological mother. For that reason alone, I think it would be prudent to put her clothes on.
I love the human body and see no problem in teaching children it's okay not to be ashamed of their bodies. But there are certain circumstances where being nude in front of a child just isn't appropriate. Hilary's case, to me, is one of them.
XOXO
I actually get that magazine at my home and literally read that article last night. I'll be honest, I was a little bit disturbed by it. I don't walk around naked in front of MY OWN son now (because I breast fed, he's a total boob-guy, lol. If he spies a boob, he thinks he's getting nursed.I cannot imagine walking around nude, or laying in a bed nude next to a six year old boy who isn't my own. At that age, he definitely has a small idea of what is happening. I would be furious if another woman was laying around naked in front of my son. It just seems wrong...but that's just my two cents ;-)
I think it's wrong. He's not her son. In and of that is what makes it wrong to me. I think there comes an age that no little boy or little girl should see their parents (of the opposite sex) nude. What that age is for everyone else could be different from mine. I am sure that my sons don't want to see me nude when they are say, 8 or 9 and up, nor would I want them to see me. Not that nudety is shameful but I also believe that modesty is also something that should be taught as well.
I am topless right now. :) But, only my kid is here and she is sleeping. I agree it isn't right especially if they are not in a long term serious relationship (years). The fact they are in the bed together and unwed is not good in my opinion. But not every one was raised with Christian morals. Of course, I have been guilty too of cohabitating with a man and child who wasn't mine. Although, I definitely was not naked around her or when she was home. Good thing she was at school during the day!
I don't think it is appropriate when the child isn't yours. I have a 9 year old stepdaughter. While she has seen me naked, I do not walk around naked in front of her. You should at least show a little modesty.
I think if she was his mother it'd be totally different, but yes if I was that child's mother I would be very upset at knowing this information. I think by that age even parents need to start putting some clothes on around their children. I think a child needs to learn a little bit of modesty, so they don't go flashing their goods to everyone and anyone all the time.
I think that this would be very different if this was his own mom, and I think at his age he is probably aware of nudity and might be confused or upset by it...
Like someone else said, if I were the boy's mom, I would probably be really really bothered by it.
I also agree that it's good to teach acceptance of the nude body... but once again, something for his parents to teach, not his dad's girlfriend.
Or let me also say this... what if the genders were reversed, and this was a female child always seeing her mother's boyfriend nude. I think we would be even more upset, and feel it's even more inappropriate (personally, I would be more outraged by that).
I agree with you! Have a good night.
Okay, normally I can see things from both sides of the coin but frankly, I can't do it this time. Frankly, I actually don't blame Hilary for being in her room,in her house, where she pays the bills, PROBABLY, naked. Look this is not a 3 or 4 year old we're talking about. This is a 6 year old child. How about teaching him to knock before he enters a room? Heck, my 2 year old nephew knocks now and I wish to God I could teach his brother to do the same but the fact is it's my room and if I want to be naked I am. I don't feel the need to explain it or justify it but the fact off the matter is it's up to this child's parents to mandate what he's exposed to. How about taking some responsibility and buying a lock for the door? That's not Hilary's job buthis father's. I wrote the same stuff in my journal as well so I don't know why I'm commenting on it but honestly, I think that children need to be taught to respect others privacy and if someone says,"Oh, I've never had a child walk in on me." they aren't being totally sincere. The fact is I knock when I walk into the boys room because it's just a respectful act. Maybe this child needs to learn that it's not wise to walk into Daddy's bedroom when he could walk in on something far worse then the sight of daddy's nude girlfriend?
first...LOVE your new layout :)
I sleep in underwear...not actually nude, for the same reasons HS does, I have princess and the pea syndrome...but I keep clothes right next to my bed so that if I have to get up I can throw something on. Not only for the sake of sparing my kids from seeing it but just in case I have to beat the sense out of a robber in the middle of the night.
I remember my folks sleeping nude...and it was weird to me, I remember that. I remember seeing my dad get out of the shower...and I can't erase that image to save my life. ...and I'm no prude, I don't mind nudity one bit.
Do I think it's wrong for my kids to see me nude, no...but it does make me a bit uncomfortable.
Do I think it's wrong for one of my nieces or nephews to see me naked, yes.
Do I think it's wrong for someone else's child to see me naked, yes.
Do I think they're horrible people/parents...hell no.
...it's their judgment call, not mine.
and I totally agree with Kaileigh...if we were talking about a man walking around nude in front of his stepdaughter (or whatever) we'd all be up in arms over it.
I think a lot of adults need to realize that kids think like kids, not adults, their minds aren't mature enough to grasp this concept of natural nudity vs. sexual nudity. Here they are saying the kids understand it, but do you remember what you recall of it when you were a kid?!
..quite frankly 6 is about the time that their body parts start becoming associated with sex. We all remember 'playing doctor' and staring wide eyed at a National Geographic magazine, right?!
I think it's allll wrong. I also think it should be sex (as in gender) related-- my son is 2, and sometimes my son showers with him. My daughter used to shower with me when she was little. But there was never ever a time that my daughter has seen my husband naked, and once my son is older,I won't be naked around him either. He runs in on me in the shower sometimes, can't avoid it. I would never be naked in front of someone else's child- not even if it was my own stepchild. I just think that's inappropriate, because if it were my child, I would be furious. I think I definitely have more of an issue with a girl seeing a man naked, I walked in on my dad once and I too was beyond traumatized- still can't forget that.
We've never made our kids think that the himan body is dirty, just that they need to use modesty. I figure it's better to teach them that now, then even bother to start drilling it into their heads when they are teens. The earlier, the better.
I definitely think that the age of her step son- seeing her naked is beyond inappropriate. He is beyond that curious point, and leaning more towards exploration. I would be embarrassed to think that my step son thought of me naked in situations.. ugh.. If he was a baby, then fine. 2 or 3, or even 4 years old? Fine. But beyond that, I think kids don't need to see the opposite sex adult naked. Who knows what kind of effect it may have on them later in life. I want my kids to be as shy about taking their clothes off for someone as humanly possible! LOL
Oops- meant to say my husband sometimes showers with my son, not son showers with son ;)
ok so heres the thing - we are in the sleepin nekkid bunch - always have been - always will - my kids know this and knock first before coming in our room - but then my kids? are 18 17 and 13 -
When they were little? they slept with us - and by little i mean toddlers and infants - Kadie used to take showers with daddy but not after about 2 years old and he held her - got her wet - washed her hair one handed - lol - and stuck her out for me to dry her off - it was a convenience thing....same with Austin
Both kids shared my bubble bath till they were about 3 - now? Kadie and Courtney and I will get dressed in the same room - no big deal - god made us all alike - but Austin? NOPE - he can dress in the room with daddy - but not me..lol...or his sisters....
But I would NEVER allow another person's child to see me naked - neither would my husband -
Courtney is not our biological child but lives with us off and on and has for a while - like 5 years....and when she first started coming over? Wayne would not even come out in the mornings without a shirt on -
We are so not prudish but what works in your house doesn't always work for someone else's house -
We dont have any stepchildren between us but I just dont know how i would handle that - well actually I do - clothing is not optional in front of my children if you did not help give birth to them...lol...and past the toddler age? I dont think it is ok either - by the time they are 4? they know what those things are and they SHOULD know that those are personal private areas that we do not share...
I know that was like a HUGE ramble but I just had to comment...lol
Kelly
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